Not Done Yet


Are Kimi and Dexter married?

Not to each other! We really are great friends, and friends only. Kimi is married (15 years) with a wonderful son and dogger. Dexter’s perfect match is looking for him. Kimi looks forward to helping plan his wedding one of these days.

Have you only done Weight Watchers?

Oh, NOOOOOOO! We have both had life-long struggles with our weight from childhood. Between us over the years, we’ve done Weight Watchers, Zacharius-Ganey Health Institute (ZGHI), Nutri-System, 1,200 calorie diets, join-a-gym and eat-only-protein, Atkins, God Diet and whatever else occurred to us.

We chose Weight Watchers and look forward to staying with Weight Watchers because:

(a) It works; and

(b) It is lifelong weight management tools, not lose-the-weight-really-quickly-then-go-back-to-eating-cheesecake-and-gain-it-all-back-plan


You people really seem to like exercising. Did you always enjoy being active and outdoorsy and stuff?

Um, no. Kimi is still not what you’d call “outdoorsy.” Dexter is an Eagle Scout, and while he likes the outdoors, he says that being outdoors at over 300 pounds pretty much sucked.

Getting active was definitely a struggle. We just had to make it a non-negotiable that we’d get in at least 30 minutes of movement every day.


I really focused on getting a handle on the food stuff first, figuring out my lunches, stocking the kitchen, learning the new points system and so forth. But, I always knew I had to get active if I wanted to keep my weight loss moving. Adjusting the food only goes so far.

So, about two months after we started back with WW, I finally had to ask myself, “What am I willing to do for thirty minutes straight.”  I also asked myself how I’d get paid off for my efforts — I’m all about incentives.

The deal I cut was this: if I would walk for thirty minutes each day, thirty days straight, then I could reward myself with a gym membership. I really like taking group classes – they go fast and they’re fun. I felt if I could prove my commitment to being active, that should earn me a gym membership — because my consistent activity would prove that I’d actually use the membership.

I put a star on the calendar every day that I walked for 30 minutes. At the end of 30 days, I signed a contract with a gym, and now I’m in Zumba, Combat, Spinning and other classes five or more times a week.

Believe me, no one is more surprised at my current activity level than me!


I will say that I love be out in nature and surround by the nature beauty of our world. Now if we could just find some way of controlling all the elements. You know things like heat, cold, rain, sunny I would be just fine. Growing up I did love all the hiking, camping, and outdoorsy things during my year in scouting.

As for how I got started back into exercising the simple answer is I just decided it was something I had to do. The complex answer is that the process of preparing to have a lap ban procedure (which I did not do thank God) made me realize I had to start somewhere and just keep going.

So that’s what I did. Joined a gym and started walking on the treadmill. In the beginning going 15 or 20 minutes was tough, but I showed up every day and did what I had to do. Today I am able to run 4 or 5 mile in around 40 to 45 minutes. I am starting to ride bikes again, and can’t wait to get my hiking boots back out on the trails of the Blue Ridge Mountains again.


What do you think is the secret of your success?

Perseverance. Like our fellow member, Teresa, says, “I might be a gainer, but I won’t be a quitter.”

We also talk a lot about never going back again. We’ve come so far – nearly 120 pounds lost between us at this point – and it’s definitely been a battle. No matter how tough the going gets, we simply cannot give back all the ground gained thus far. Gotta keep moving forward. All the good stuff is happening now and in the days ahead.

What was the hardest part about getting started?

Oooh, that’s a good one.


The first twenty pounds were hard. For some reason, that’s a threshold for me – almost like I haven’t really “accomplished” anything until I get those first 20 pounds gone. For me, that was a big hurdle to clear to feel confident about what I was doing.


FEAR!! In a nutshell I had a great fear of failing again. But I perhaps had a greater fear of permanently altering my body with a surgical procedure that in all reality only truly works if you are willing to do the work. I had the choice to change my life my way or to have surgery and have that changed forced on me.

The biggest obstacle for me was the acceptance that this would be a lifestyle change and the process would take time and effort. Some weeks in the beginning the weight came off quickly and some weeks not so much, but pound by pound it did come off and it continues to come off.

Are you worried about what maintaining vs. losing will be like?

Right now, we think maintaining will be a whole lot like what we’re currently doing.

(1) Being aware of what we eat

(2) Attending Weight Watchers meetings

(3) Staying accountable by weighing in regularly

(4) Being active

That said, it’s different when your goal is for the number on the scale to stay the same vs. going down. Eventually, people will stop talking about how great we look now that we’ve lost the weight. We’ll just look the way we look at a normal weight. We’ll meet new people who have no idea what we’ve done to get to that weight or what we do to maintain it.

It’ll definitely be a new experience, and one that we’ll have to learn to navigate. Kinda looking forward to it, though!

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